Elliot Jaques, a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist famous for his work in 'Positive Adult Development', coined the term "midlife crisis" to apply to those persons who have lived a great portion of their lives and suddenly find themselves unfulfilled, unhappy, sad, and depressed. In his day, "a great portion of life was considered mid to high 30s. Today, with modern medicine, the life expectancy of an average healthy person has increased so a midlife crisis is now deferred to individuals in there mid 40s. Either way it is believed that these persons experiencing a midlife crisis are consumed by an overwhelming state of mind, which then affects their being. This predicament is generally brought on by the eminent fear that their lives are halfway over and accomplishing a fulfilling life and building a legacy is hastily slipping away.
I've coined a derivative term for this phenomenon called, '"any point life crisis," and applies to people of all ages that are in various stages of life. The focus is no longer on age or not achieving goals and leaving a legacy, the catalyst to a life crisis stems from a multitude of reasons. The critical part to this new awareness is not the crisis itself per se, but the inability to move past it. We are living in drastically different times than1965, when Jaques first coined the term, "midlife crisis." Today, now more than ever, we are more confused about this human experience we are having here on earth than any other point in history. This is attributed to our move from a clandestine way of life, shrouded in secrecy and fear, to an enlightened mental evolution. We have been told what to believe, what to think, and how to behave for a long time. Today we find ourselves immersed in knowledge at our fingertips and most struggle with what to do with it. Believe it or not but ignorance is truly bliss. What are we to do with the things that have come to light, after being lied to for our entire existence? Physics, biology, consciousness, etc. it's all been a lie.
Quite naturally we find ourselves at a point where many of us feel stuck and discouraged about life. We have reached a plateau in grasping and understanding it all, now it's time to adapt. It's sink or swim time for many of us and there isn't the slightest clue on what to do to change our hearts, mindsets, and ways of being. A positive healthy mindset is the driving force behind picking up and starting over when life reveals its flaws. Change in mentality takes place with change in heart and change in actions; it's a trinity effect, meaning you cannot have one without the other. I write about this in my book, Healthy Self. You're probably thinking easier said than done, and yes, in a lot of ways, that may be true. Humans are creatures of habit and for that reason we fall easily into the automatic processes in which we used to govern our lives. Again, living under clandestine conditions was a way to limit and control our mental exertion. We are awake now, we are up, and we are aware that in order to live a happy fulfilling life we must take back personal ownership over our existence, which quite frankly, is exhausting.
The 'Trinity Effect for Transformation' is a 3-step process that allows for immediate, efficient, and lasting change. If you are interested in transforming your life in any way, it can be in the area of relationships (family, romantic, social), health (healing, wellness), or wealth (career, entrepreneurship) take my mini course, Trinity Transformation. This course was designed to be short, sweet, and to the point of getting past the hang-ups of change. It includes an assessment, step by step instructions on what you need to do, and exercises to help move past any limiting beliefs. Access to the course can be found here.
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